Like many stepmums, I started out believing I had to get everything right.

I thought I needed to keep everyone happy, put myself last, never complain, and somehow find the perfect balance between supporting the children, my partner and myself.

The reality was very different.

There were times I felt like an outsider in my own family. Times when I questioned myself, overthought conversations, worried about upsetting people and carried guilt for having perfectly normal human emotions.

What I've since learned is that many of these struggles weren't caused by being a stepmum.

They were being fuelled by the beliefs I was carrying.

Beliefs like:

"I should always put everyone else first."

"A good stepmum doesn't get upset."

"If I set boundaries, I'm selfish."

"I need everyone to like me."

"I have to prove my place in the family."

As I began exploring beliefs, mindset and emotional wellbeing, everything started to change. I'm now training as a Belief Coach Facilitator. This workbook was created to help stepmums identify the hidden beliefs that may be shaping their experiences, so they can feel more confident, calmer and more like themselves again.